The book of Psalms contains every strong emotion of human existence. Psalm 85:10 reminds us of the love of God for His people - a love that flows from an inexhaustible supply. Marriage is a picture of that love.

Could it be that deep inside hurting couples exists an invisible "emotional love tank" with its gauge on empty? Could the misbehavior, withdrawal, harsh words, and critical spirit occur because of that empty tank? If we could find a way to fill it, could the marriage be reborn? With a full tank, would couples be able to create an emotional climate where it is possible to discuss differences and resolve conflicts? Could that tank be the key that makes marriage work?

Keeping the emotional love tank full is as important to a marriage as maintaining the proper oil level is to an automobile. Running your marriage on an empty 'love tank' may cost you even more than trying to drive your car without oil. Understanding that can save a shaky marriage and enhance the emotional climate of a good marriage.

Learning to speak the primary love language of your spouse may radically affect his or her behavior. People behave differently when their emotional love tanks are full.

Take some time to pray individually or as a couple. As you pray...

Thank God for creating you with the capacity to love and be loved;

Share your feelings about the way your emotional needs have (or haven't) been met;

Ask Him to bless your efforts to keep your spouse's love tank full.

If you have more time...

Discuss together or reflect on these questions:

Describe what it's like to have your love tank empty.

Describe what it's like to have your love tank full.

What changes might you see in your spouse if his or her love tank were full?

Consider these passages for further study on Meeting Needs.

Philippians 2:4 says not to look to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

Hebrews 13:16 And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

I John 3:17  If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person?

Psalm 85:10 Love and faithfulness meet together;
    righteousness and peace kiss each other.

Be a blessing to those around you. Hold on to those memories. Evaluate yourself and how you can be the best to the Lord.