Another aspect of social intimacy involves the couple doing things together. Attending a movie or athletic event, shopping, walking the dog together, or having a picnic in the park together are all ways of building social intimacy. Much of life involves doing. When we do things together, we not only develop a sense of teamwork, but we also enhance our relationship.

In Isaiah 26:9, the prophet described strongly desiring to spend time with God: “All night long I search for you; in the morning I earnestly seek for God.” That same sense of urgency to enjoy another’s company- which often is prompted by our good memories of previous encounters – is beneficial in marriage. The things we do together often form our most vivid memories. Will we ever forget climbing a mountain together? Or giving the dog a haircut? Social intimacy is an important part of a growing marriage.

Take some time to pray and…

Thank God for the memories you have developed as a couple.

Thank Him for the fun, laughter, and times you can enjoy just being together.

Ask Him to help you intentionally cultivate social intimacy as you grow in your relationship.

Take time to reflect on these questions.

When are some of your favorite shared memories as a couple?

What are some activities you really enjoy doing together (ranging from the mundane to special occasions)?

How can you set aside and protect more time to build social intimacy?

Consider these passages for further study on friendship:

Amos 3:3

“Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”

Acts 2:42-47 All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper), and to prayer.

A deep sense of awe came over them all, and the apostles performed many miraculous signs and wonders. And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had. They sold their property and possessions and shared the money with those in need. They worshipped together at the Temple each day, met in homes for the Lord’s Supper, and shared meals with great joy and generosity. All the while praising God and enjoying the goodwill of all the people. And each day the Lord added to their fellowship those who were being saved.

Philippines 2:1-2 Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate?

Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.

Thoughts of Gary Chapman.

When they are gone, you know to focus on the joy and love they gave you.